Has your spouse or Significant Other's behavior changed? As in: spending more time on the computer, often staying up until all hours? changing clothing and grooming habits? When you ask your spouse or Significant Other about the changes, does he or she avoid giving you a direct answer, become angry, or change the subject? Are you starting to think your Significant Other might be interested in someone else? Have you considered that the person with whom you have been involved might be discovering a long-hidden or repressed interest in members of their OWN sex?
If this sounds like it could have nothing to do with you, think again.
Gay, lesbian and bisexual people who are in the closet get into relationships with heterosexual people, marry heterosexual people and have children with heterosexual people. World-wide, more than TWO MILLION heterosexual men and women have les/bi/gay partners and nearly all are unaware of their partner's real orientation.
Why does this happen? The lesbian/bisexual/gay person is frightened of his or her orientation and hides it from the outside world. The les/bi/gay person hopes that a relationship with a heterosexual partner will "cure" the same sex attractions and allow him or her to achieve the "good life" of 2.5 kids complete with suburban house and a dog. And how many heterosexuals would knowingly enter a committed relationship with someone who is openly homosexual?
If you are skeptical, check out these links: Here is a link to the page of a gay man who married three different women and hid his homosexuality from them all. He has come out of the closet. This is the home page of a "shy" married man with kids, who discovered his orientation in his 40's via the computer. He is still in the closet, and has not told his wife about his homosexuality. But he says he will tell her "when the time is right." Clicking here will take you to a list of personal web sites of lesbians who have been or are married.
The people who write here are or were partners of lesbian, bisexual or gay people. Some of us are dealing with closet cases who have not come out, and others have partners who came out and left immediately.
Widespread favorable media coverage and vast resources are available to the les/bi/gay person who comes out of the closet. There is little media coverage for that person's partner and chilren and such resources are sparse.
This site is for the forgotten people: str8 spouses, their children and their families.
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